Teenage Pregnancy

I'm becoming to find with more and more people around me who get pregnant that in some way or another they are looked down upon if they of a certain age or don't have a dad to go with the baby. How come in my life right now if I were to get pregnant it would be a happy thing to everyone (even though I'm totally not ready and still young) but if a girl who is 18 or even younger gets pregnant it's like the end of the world? In a town like this everyone will know very quickly if that girl got pregnant and what she did. It seems no matter what choice she makes, (keep the baby, get an abortion, put him or her up for adoption) she will always be shunned. People will hate her for being a teenage mom but still trying to live her life, then people will hate her for getting an abortion because it's so "wrong." But why are we the ones that get to choose for her? Why is it that those who should be most important to her push her away for not making the decision that we all wanted her to make? The fact is, it's not our choice and instead of telling her she's a "fuck up" because we don't like her choice, we should being telling her "I love you always no matter what." We should hear her out no matter how selfish we think her reasons are because we are not the ones having the baby. We can say "I'll help you in any way possible" but in the end it's her who needs to decide what to do.

Now this girl decides to get an abortion because she feels like she can't do it and she's not ready and if she were only a year older she could handle it. We all try our best to support her but then tell her she should've made this decision sooner. Truthfully though, what difference does it make if the baby looks like a sea monkey or a tadpole? As Shane put it, it's easier to shot the fish. Either way though we killed something with a heart and now whomever has to live with that. So it's easier to eat the fish but if we step on the frog we feel bad but either way we killed it. Why is that? And why is it that no matter what decision the "mom" makes we still judge her in some way? All I know, is that with all my friends who have babies, are pregnant, or have decided they aren't ready, they all made the right choice for themselves and I have no say in how she decides. Even if I don't agree, I can tell her it scares me but I'm not her and what would I do if I was in that situation. I couldn't tell you what I would do because sure I've had pregnancy scares but I've never actually had to go past the scare. I can only hope to God when I'm in that situation (if I ever am, pregnancy is God's Will) that people support me no matter what.